FAQ & Rules

Event Contact Information

For questions or comments regarding your event ticket or registration, email: Event Coordinator
For questions or comments regarding information contained within this web site, email: Web Master

Prior to contacting us, please review the questions & answers below.


Frequently Asked Questions (FAQ)

Name Tag Badges
Upon checking in, you will be given an ID badge with a lanyard. For security reasons, you must wear it at all times.

Will there be singles at this event?
Yes! Many people who attend the Spanksgiving event are unpartnered.  This is a great event to meet other unpartnered, like-minded people. Be sure to attend the Meet & Mingle on Friday evening.

I have a question or I am concerned about something. Is there someone I can speak to?
Yes!  If you have a question or have a concern about anything, please do not hesitate to immediately approach any staff member, any volunteer, any DM or any of the security staff.  If they do not know the answer or are unable to help, they will find someone who can. We are here to help and make your experience at Spanksgiving as safe and enjoyable as possible.

Are cell phones permitted?
NO!  Not even to check the time. (#BringWristWatch) Mobile phones and all other electronic devices are strictly prohibited in ALL AREAS of the hotel and the convention center, including hallways, stairwells, and bathrooms. Mobile phones are permitted only (1) in the front portion of the hotel lobby beyond the black curtains, (2) outside the building, or (3) in the privacy of your hotel room.

Is smoking permitted?
NO!  The hotel and convention center are designated non-smoking/vaping buildings.  However, we do provide a very private, outside Smoking Lounge, located adjacent to the Main Event Area. It is fully enclosed, and heated on cool evenings.

Can I use my phone in the Smoking Lounge, since it is located outside the building?
NO!  The designated outdoor smoking lounge is part of the overall Event Area. Mobile phones and all other electronic devices are prohibited in the smoking lounge, just like everywhere else.  The only allowable areas for cell phone use is (1) in the front portion of the lobby, beyond the black privacy curtains, (2) outside the hotel, or (3) in the privacy of your hotel room.

Does the no mobile phones/laptops/tablets rule apply to vendors?
Many of the vendors use laptops, phones or other smart devices in order to manage their sales and transactions. These devices ARE allowed for those purposes only – by vendors only – and only in the vending mart area.  The cell phone rule pertains to all other devices or uses not pre-approved by the Event staff, in all hotel and Event areas.

Are condoms/barriers required for insertables or other penetrative activities?
For both of these situations, condoms are encouraged because they make cleanup much easier. However, condoms are not actually required for insertables or penetrative devices.  What is required is some kind of waterproof or impermeable barrier, such as a plastic sheet or “puppy pad”, underneath in order to protect the floor, furniture or equipment you are using.  Beyond that, we trust you all to make your own decisions regarding your sexual health and safety.

Will I need any supplies?
Yes!  Please bring your own supplies, including chucks. We understand that sometimes, in the spur of the moment, you might be unprepared. However, it is your responsibility to purchase and provide all that you need in order to scene. Please plan ahead and pack what is necessary, including sharps containers, condoms, and barriers. Thank you!

What is the location of the event?
The event is held at a 3-star hotel & convention center less than 15 minutes from downtown St Louis.  In order to preserve the security and privacy of all attendees, the exact location never disclosed here or on any other publicly accessible web site.  After purchasing your event ticket, you will receive a confirmation email with all the details. Please do not post or discuss the location of the event with anyone who is not also attending.

Hotel Lodging and room reservations?
Your hotel room is not included in the price of an Event Ticket.   Due to popularity and steady growth of STL3 events, there are not enough rooms at the Host Hotel to accommodate ALL attendees.  However, there are four other  hotels that are located nearby (within a half mile) and they all have plenty of rooms available to handle the over-flow.  The hotel room rates are very reasonable and depending upon the room size (standard or suite) that you reserve, range in price from $79 to $119 per night.

What if I have a question or concern that is not covered here?
By all means, email us at web@STL3.com. We’ll reply as soon as possible.


Event & Play Space Rules

Printed copies of the rules will be available at the Registration Check-In table and in the Event Program Book. They are also posted here, so that all attendees have additional time to familiarize themselves with the rules in advance of the event. This is a “living document”, and it is periodically updated.

The Rules:

1. No cameras, mobile phones, video or audio recording devices, laptop or tablet computers, or any other personal electronic devices are permitted in any of the common areas of this event.

2. All attendees must have a visible Event Badge at all times, in all common areas.  Badges may be removed during Playspace play but must remain immediately available.

3. Each attendee, once admitted to the event, assumes personal responsibility for their consent and participation in any event- and/or Playspace-related activities.

4. Do not touch another person’s belongings, property or body without express permission to do so.

5. Firearms (including non-functioning replicas) are strictly prohibited.

6. The use of all toys/tools is restricted to Playspace and/or seminar spaces.

7. Please use common sense and courtesy in all common areas of the hotel.  There will be NO PLAY outside of the Playspaces.

8. A towel or other barrier must be laid on any chair or other seating surface before sitting with exposed buttocks, genitals or the presence of blood and/or other bodily fluids.  Genitals and breasts must be covered in all food service areas.

9. Prostitution, solicitation or negotiating for sexual or BDSM services for compensation are ILLEGAL and shall not be tolerated.

10. STL3, Inc., its Board of Directors, the Event’s committee members, its DMs, hotel management, and any officers, directors, employees, staff, agents, successors or assigns of any of the foregoing shall not be held liable to any attendee for injury or damage to person or property incurred as a result of attendance of this event.

11. By registering for this event and entering into any of the event areas, you acknowledge that you have read these rules, understand them, and will abide by them and that you assume all risks incident to your attendance at this event.

The Playspace Monitors are present to ensure compliance with the Event/Dungeon Rules.  Playspace Monitors are identified by a yellow sash with “DM” on it.  DMs reserve the right to modify or end a scene and escort non-compliant attendees from the Playspace.  DMs are also present for any questions or concerns by attendees during Playspace hours.

12. DMs have the final decision.  DMs have the authority to stop any scene that violates the Event/Playspace Rules, or is unsafe or abusive.

13. The official designated event safe word is “SAFEWORD”.

14. If a scene involves gagging, covering the bottom’s mouth, or otherwise restricting the ability to speak, you must use a Drop Object.  If you do not have a Drop Object of your own, please see a DM for assistance before playing.

15. Attendees are required to bring and use their own supplies as needed to prevent the transmission of or exposure to bodily fluids, including (but not limited to): tarps, drop-cloths, waterproof pads; appropriate containers for used needles or sharps; condoms, gloves or other barriers.  Attendees are responsible for disposing of these items in a safe and sanitary manner.

16. A waterproof or impermeable barrier must be used to protect equipment and furniture from sexual activity and fluids.

17. Do not interrupt a scene.  If you have questions for the participants, save them until the scene is finished and aftercare is complete.

18. Keep conversation quiet in the Playspaces, or move them to social areas outside the Playspaces.

19. Water is the only beverage allowed in the Playspaces.  Glass drinkware is prohibited in the Playspaces.

20. If your scene or play involves heavy, rough or unusual play, please inform the DM in your scene area before you begin.

21. If you are uncomfortable with someone else’s scene, you should simply step away.  If you feel that a scene is unsafe, please inform the nearest DM.

22. For participants’ safety, suspensions are permitted only at designated stations.  If you are unsure of a structure’s suitability for suspension, please see a DM for more information.

23. Whips in the Playspace areas are limited to a maximum total length of 5 feet from end to end, including handles, crackers, etc.

24. Fire play is limited to a designated area protected by flame-resistant floor coverings.

25. All corded electrical devices must be plugged into a Ground Fault Interrupter (GFI), and not directly into wall sockets.

26. Scenes involving wax play must be limited to designated areas with a protective tarp on the floor.

27. All medical play, needle and cutting scenes are limited to our designated Medical Playspace and only during times when a Medical DM is on duty.

28. Shoes or sandals are required within the Medical Play area. It is strongly suggested that shoes or sandals be worn in all Playspace areas.

29. For any needle play which leaves the sharp point of the needle out of the skin, a cork or similar covering must be placed on the needle tip if the person is to leave the needles in for any length of time (e.g., walking around the event to show off their artwork).

30. Breath play and carotid artery manipulation/compression are both prohibited.

31. Watersports, scat play and vomit play are all prohibited.

32. Restraint of any material may not be fixed or attached going from around someone’s neck to any outside connection point (such as part of a structure or play equipment/station), nor may any restraint connect from a collar around the neck to any outside point.

33. Attendees must clean play stations before AND after scenes, with the cleaning supplies located throughout the Playspaces; this includes properly and safely disposing of any used barriers, gloves, pads, towels or other one-time use items.

Last Updated 1/25/2018